Are you a Christian and having issues in your marriage? Do you see yourself on the brink of divorce? Are you searching for answers to save your marriage? Don’t give up, you are not alone.
Often people will think that Christians don’t have problems in their marriages. Sometimes people outside of the church seem to think Christians are so fortunate that they don’t have marital issues, but then they won’t search for why that is, even though it’s a mistaken presumption. Sometimes Christians themselves mistakenly think that they are not supposed to have any problems in their marriage because of the fact that they are Christian. The fact is, Christians are still human and will still have issues when two people with different minds, different ideas, and different viewpoints disagree with each other.
God is the one who ordained the covenant of marriage. It was His idea from the start, and he gave us some important guidelines to do things His way. The problem is we often want to do it our own way because we want to think the ways God said a marriage should be are old-fashioned and sexist. This usually comes from a misunderstanding of Ephesians 5:22 where the Bible says, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” This is even a common reason many people give for not being a Christian at all. However, this is usually taken completely out of context, because shortly after that, in verse 25, it says, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church, and gave Himself for it.” A husband is told to love his wife with a sacrificial love, lovingly giving all of himself to her. He is not supposed to be bossy toward her, treat her cruelly, treat her with disrespect, or be demeaning of. If the husband is excercising such a love for his wife, then she should be willing to “submit” to his authority over the home, show him loving kindness, and willingly come under his sheltering love and care. It’s a give and take and neither the husband nor the wife is to be overbearing or oppressive. You may be in a troubled Christian marriage or perhaps you’re a non-Christian with marriage troubles looking for a way to improve your marriage and avoid the pain of divorce. You may be seeing things fall apart in your marriage and you may be going out of your mind asking yourself “how can I heal my marriage?” If this describes you, then I have found a very valuable tool to help couples save their marriage and avoid divorce by doing things God’s way. I’ve written a little about it and I’ve linked to it on my blog, where you’ll also find other Christian living articles, devotionals and links.
Your Question reminded me of an article that i had read few weeks ago It says Blessed are the husband and wife who continue to be considerate and affectionate long after the wedding bells have ceased ringing. Keeping your courtship alive even after marriage can be the most important ingredient of a happy married life.