I fully grasp you’re going to be feeling really emotional just now. Perhaps you won’t have any idea exactly why? Yesterday everything looked great – then today – poof! It’s over. I understand how you feel, I’ve been there, but if you desire to stand any chance of winning your ex back, you’re going to need to not let those feelings rule your head. You have also got a bit of home work to do including understanding why men fall out of love.
If you have any respect for yourself, the worst thing you want to do now is to go back to your ex, begging and pleading or crying hysterically. This must surely be the worst thing you could do. If you take a step back and think about it realistically, do you really want to appear desperate and hopeless? Don’t you think that would be the best example of unattractiveness? One more thing, what happens if he thinks you are out of your mind! That will not help matters will it? The best thing to try and do now is allow the dust settle for a couple of weeks and give your self a chance to think straight again.
I’m sure the primary question in your thoughts at this time is why did your guy leave? As well as why did he stop loving you? Before you answer these types of questions, you have to understand a little bit about males. It’s really important to be aware of the psychological variations between males and females: for instance if a man spends too much time at the workplace a woman may see him as selfish whilst the man thinks he is doing the right thing in providing for his loved ones. Females however place their relationships first and think that their men ought to be too, this can cause trouble. The more you read about the male psyche, the more you will avoid these types of little differences.
The number one reason men fall out of love with their partners is because they stop fancying them, sometimes this is because the woman has neglected her physical appearance, occasionally it’s not, but at least if it’s the former, it can be treated. If you’ve not been taking care of yourself lately , this could be a major factor in your recent break up. Have you perhaps stopped wearing make up for him? Are you more likely to be seen wearing sloppy track suits rather than your high heels and tight skirts like you used to? Don’t you think that if it was the high heels and tight dresses that first attracted him to you, he’ll be a little disappointed that you’ve changed. That goes for your weight too! A few pounds won’t make a difference but many pounds will – you just won’t look like the same girl he fell in love with
Right this is your first lesson on what men want and don’t want. Don’t think this is all there is to learn though, this is just the beginning.
Make a man FEEL GOOD about himself and you’ve found the key. Men have a huge ego which needs t be fed. To do this you need to give him praise and admiration as well as affection and also let him know that he is appreciated. Men need excitement in a relationship, as well as fun and spontaneity – this keeps it alive. Men want a certain amount of freedom and space to prevent them from feeling suffocated. Men are unhappy if they are constantly being nagged. Men can’t cope with feeling like they aren’t good enough for you in some way. Men will be very unhappy if their sex life is under par.
By now, I hope you feel like you’ve learned a few things about what a man wants and doesn’t want. You may have begun to understand the reasons why he may have ended the relationship. Using the above point’s hopefully you’ll be able to start making improvements. Hopefully, by now you’ll have realized that there’s more to understanding men than meets the eye and that you still have a lot of learning to do.
Now that you have some insight into the way men think I hope you may understand where you went wrong. We’re only at the beginning. In the next stage, you’re going to learn how to be his idea of the perfect woman, and get him back again.
Another good idea for you would be read through books to read after break up to gain insights into the way men think post break up. You will learn secret psychological strategies that will pull him back to you in no time.