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"I need to get my ex girlfriend back and save my relationship. I had a bitter fight with my ex girlfriend and severed my relationship. Now I regret my decision. I know that it will not be easy but I am prepared for some daunting task ahead. I know that making up after a fight and getting my ex girlfriend back will not be easy but I want to give it a try..."
If you are thinking on these lines you are right. However, with a little help, you can get your relationship back on track.
How do I go about getting my ex girlfriend back and saving my relationship?
First thing that you need to be clear about before you attempt to get your ex girlfriend back is your motive behind it. Ask questions like “why do I want my ex girlfriend back? Is it because I love her for who she is despite the flaws that she might have or because I do not want to label her as “my ex girlfriend” for she is good looking? If the only reason you want her back is because she is an arm candy, it is better you do not make any efforts as your relationship is doomed from the very start. If you are really smitten, this is what you can do to get her back:
It is very normal to experience a number of emotions while you are hanging in no man’s land. Anger, frustration, grief are all a part of the package when one is dealing with a situation like this. You still might be unclear about what you want from the relationship and why you want it. It will save a lot of trouble if you sit down and think before you act.
Once you have made up your mind that you want to get your ex girlfriend back, you have two ways to go about it. You can either take the easier route which happens to be the one wherein you can be honest and straight forward with her. This route entails you to be direct and heartfelt. If you were the one at fault in the relationship, it should be your duty to accept your fault. If it was something she did that made you upset, you must be ready to forgive her mistakes and past misdemeanors too. Whether you ask for her forgiveness or whether you are the one who is ready to bury the hatchet, make your ex girlfriend feel that all is genuine in your relationship and not some trick up your sleeves. Begin your dialogue with “we need to talk” phrase and limit the usage of the term breakup to the minimum possible.
The other route is the complicated one and the one that involves risk. It is said that when roses and chocolates do not work their charm on a woman; jealousy sure plays the trick. Although this trick might at times backfire, there is no harm in using it as the last resort. If you think that seeing an attractive woman on your arms would make your ex girlfriend go so green with envy that she would come running back to you, chances are that you have hit the bull’s eye. If your girl has been prone to bouts of jealousy even when you were in a steady relationship, this technique sure holds promise. Just remember that it might have different consequences.
Before you start whining in front of your friends about “my ex girlfriend was like this, my ex girlfriend was like that”, stop and do a reality check. Act before it is too late for a patch up in your relationship.
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March 2010
